A Queen No More

From "Mummies of Many" Series

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I remember being pampered like a queen during my first pregnancy. There was so much excitement about the first baby, the first grandchild and the first great-grandchild in the family. I was well-fed, constantly had my food cravings fulfilled and treated with Chinese delicacies such as double boiled chicken soup, chicken essence. and bird's nest soup. Family members frequently checked on me, asked how I was feeling and advised me to rest more and made sure I didn't have to do any heavy lifting. I was basking in everyone's love and attention.

Then came the second pregnancy. There was excitement when news was shared but it all died down rather quickly. Everyone was too engrossed with my first son to be worrying about the arrival of the new baby until only weeks before the EDD. I was still treated with the delicacies but the second pregnancy definitely felt different. It wasn't anybody's fault. It was just that situations had changed.

I couldn't enjoy my pregnancy as I had done before. There was no luxury of time to laze around just because I was pregnant. There were no peaceful moments when I could just sit and read and imagine what my baby would be like when he was born. My first son needed my attention and also requested to be carried. It was definitely hard to avoid any heavy lifting when you need to carry your older child. I certainly felt more like a maidservant than a queen.

If you didn't fully enjoy your first pregnancy, I'm afraid it would be difficult to indulge during future pregnancies when you have a child or children who demand your attention. Do take whatever chances you can to get the Husband to give you back, legs, shoulders massage. You need it now more than ever.

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