Right after I gave birth to my first Son, I moved back to my parents' place to spend the one month Confinement with my mum helping to cook all my meals. Confinement is a Chinese practice for new mummies, which includes a list of Dos and Don'ts and herbal meals, believed to help the mummy recover quickly from the delivery wounds and regain her energy. As much as I appreciated my mum's help, I felt rather "suffocated" to have my privacy only limited to my room. I missed the freedom and space at my own place.
So when the one month was up, I was eager to move back home. I was also very excited about taking care of the baby on my own, without my parents fussing around and getting anxious about the baby easily. Unfortunately, on the morning of second day that I moved back home, I accidentally stubbed my fourth toe at the corner of a bench at home. Ouch! The impact was so bad that the toe actually twisted and I had difficulty walking. The incident happened at 8am, I called my parents to ask them for help, and they arrived at my place before 10am. My parents are really awesome!
Unfortunately for me, my ideal of conquering the world - just Baby and me, didn't last for more than a day. I had my toe checked and bandaged and I could hardly walk. It meant I couldn't carry the baby around. I was moving around on a swivel chair. As much as I wanted to be independent in caring for the baby back at my home, I was forced to accept my parents' help because of my injury. Their presence and prompt help really saved the day, or rather, the entire week that my mobility was limited.
That eventful week actually made me realise that I was too full of myself. I could indeed very well take care of the baby on my own, but there isn't anything that I need to prove, or anyone I need to prove to. I realise I should have been more gracious and grateful in accepting help.
Accepting help doesn't mean we are weak. Sometimes we just need a break to recharge, sometimes circumstances force us to reach out to others for help. Sometimes family and friends sincerely want to help because they care for us as much as they care for our child. Regardless, we can still be the best mum to our child.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. - Proverbs 11:2
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