I'm sure you remember how your life changed the day your first child was born. Even the most devoted husbands exhibit a change of heart. Don't get me wrong, most husbands experience a greater sense of respect and love towards their wife after witnessing the pain, discomfort, and effort she went through in bringing forth the baby to this world. After all, it's not called 'labor' if it didn't require all that hard work! Yet the moment your spouse laid his eyes on his precious little bundle of joy, his heart got stolen away.
As Jerry Maguire would say, "You had me at 'waahhh'.".
Naturally, your firstborn, the fruit of you and your husband's love, would have become the center of your universe. It's hard to stop that from happening because the baby needs to be taken care of 24/7. The fact that you find your baby is THE most adorable and beautiful being in the world, makes it almost impossible not to place him at the center of your universe. But I'm afraid this doesn't apply to your subsequent babies. Not that the firstborn is always the cutest, but because now you have more than one child to mind!
The new baby definitely requires to be taken care of 24/7 as well, and his lower birth order doesn't mean you love him any less. It's just that having more than one child makes life more complicated. Besides, as much as the baby can sense your love and enjoys your attention and physical touch, he doesn't comprehend the situation as your toddler does. Therefore, you need to be intentional in giving attention, showing affection and expressing love towards your toddler, now more than before.
I have learned, the hard way, that it is more important to consider your toddler's emotional needs than providing physical attention to the baby. @mumpreneur264
Therefore, being the new baby no longer means being conferred kingly status in the family. We still love the new baby just as much. But we need to prioritize protecting the emotional well-being of the older child.
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