This is not to say that you are certainly suffering from a mental disorder or postnatal depression. Yet it is important to be aware of your own mental and emotional health. As mentioned before, Motherhood is a marathon and there are a lot of challenges and struggles that mummies face, and it can be especially overwhelming if you are a new mom.
There is no shame in admitting that you are tired or feeling drained from all your mothering duties. You might not even realise that your mental state is changing. Perhaps you could be getting more short-tempered, experiencing more mood swings, getting easily irritated by the people around you or seemingly finding more faults in your Husband. Your loved ones might notice subtle changes in you but might not wish to point them, considering you are having a hard time adjusting to your new role as a Mother.
The best would be to keep an open mind and ask your loved ones earnestly, especially your Husband, if they do notice any changes in your moods and behaviour. This conversation would be best carried out when you are in a calm and relaxed mood so that you are more receptive to what is being said. Trusting that your loved ones are truly concerned about you, you should then think through what they have said and evaluate yourself to see if you also agree that there have been indeed negative changes in your mental or emotional state.
These negative emotions or moods are largely caused by lack of sleep and an overwhelming sense of responsibility in caring for a new baby. More often than not, all you need is to take a day off to wind down and do something to pamper yourself -- retail therapy, full body massage, get a new haircut and treatment, going for a swim, lunch out with your besties or just enjoy your favourite cuppa with a good book for a couple of hours without being disturbed.
There are certainly days when I feel like I'm losing my mind, literally. There is no doubt that I love my children but on some days, the toil of mothering just gets to me. It can get overwhelming facing these little ones who are constantly demanding of you physically, mentally and emotionally. Just like how we can get overworked at our respective positions in the corporate world, mummies can get overworked at home too. After all, there really isn't any break that mummies can get from being a mum, especially SAHMs. Sometimes we really need to stop and assess ourselves and take the much needed break that we deserve.
When you feel recharged and refreshed, you would be in a much better condition to care for your baby, and pour our once again your love and affection for the little one.
Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. "Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. "For My yoke is easy and My burden is light". - Matthew 11:28-30
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