If you dislike waking up at night to feed the baby, or feel frustrated over having to rock the baby for 40 minutes before he falls asleep, or wonder when your "old life" will ever come back, I can totally feel you. We cannot deny the fact that having a baby changes our lives.
Most of us have to make adjustments to our work and social life to cater to our baby. It could be turning down late night drinks so we could be home to put the baby to sleep; or staying in to work during lunch time so that we can knock off early to head home and spend time with our little one; or being very selective about social gatherings because we need to spend more time with our families. We probably have also modified our homes to make sure that furnishings and arrangement of furniture becomes baby-proof or child-friendly. Our homes which used to be well-manicured and minimalist-designed may now be littered with toys and splashed with kiddy colours. Suddenly, all our personal routines, romantic couple dates and Friday night parties, seem like a lifetime ago.
Even after three kids, I still miss the "old days" sometimes. Above all, I miss exclusive time with my Husband and hanging out with my girlfriends. Some may find me a wet blanket when I attend dinner gatherings and leave by 9pm to be home for my children's bedtime. Some may label me as anti-social when I keep turning down social meals with my colleagues. Of course I don't always feel good about myself because I care about what others think of me. Yet I have set my priorities and no one can tell me my priorities are wrong.
The hard truth is, making all these changes is not easy and may not make you feel good either. But each time I witness my baby's milestones - his first smile, his first rollover, his first taste of solid food, his first steps - and re-living the most wonderful moments of innocence and pure joy captured in pictures, I know it's all worth it.
Hang on to these moments. They will fuel you for a long journey ahead.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. - Galatians 6:9
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