There are five languages of love - acts of services, words of encouragement, spending quality time, physical touch and giving gifts. What's your love language?
My Husband and I did a short questionnaire to evaluate our love languages during our marriage preparatory course conducted by the church. Back then, my top love language was spending quality time and physical touch. As I moved on to Motherhood, I realise I craved for words of encouragement more. I would bask in love and assurance when my Husband compliments me and praises me for having taken care of our children well, or being a "Super Mom". Yet I know I can't keep fishing for compliments. Especially during the day, when I'm in the middle of a battle.
My battles could be fighting the zzz Monster and keeping my sanity after countless hourly feeds, excruciating pain from cracked nipples, frustration at having to change yet another poop-filled diaper 10 minutes after I put on a fresh one. I've come to realise that how well I perform as a Mother is not dependent on the skills I have, but my mental capacity. I need to be encouraged. I need some kind words to lift my spirits so I could press on further. Yet even my Husband can't be around all the time or say the exact words that I want to hear.
I realise I'm my biggest cheerleader.
From one mummy to another, I would like to lovingly tell you,
"Motherhood is tough. Some days can be absolutely insane. But I know for certain that you have done your best. You are the best Mom you can be. You are the best Mom your child can ever wish for. Nobody else can love your child and care for your child like you do. So don't be too hard on yourself. Take a deep breath, or two. You are stronger and tougher than you think."
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. - Proverbs 16:24
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