From your second pregnancy onwards, you not only have to share the good news with your parents and friends, it is also essential to let your older child/children in on the news.
For children under three, they might not be able to fully grasp what it means for their mommy to be having another baby growing inside her until the mommy's tummy is obviously protruding.
When I was expecting for the third time, I decided to share the news with my three-year-old when I was about three months along. I know he would be able to understand since he already witnessed me having his younger brother.
Here's how our conversation went --
Me: Do you see that mummy's tummy is growing bigger?
Me: There's a baby growing inside mummy!
3yo: Is it going to be a boy or a girl?
Me: I don't know yet. What do you think?
3yo: I think it's going to be a girl.
And he was right.
It is even more heartwarming when your older child displays interest and concern.
Engage the child by getting him to touch your baby bump gently, speak to the baby and feel the baby's movements. I believe bonding between siblings starts right here. (Read: Encourage Sibling Interaction)
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It is also a good idea to bring your child along for the visits to the obstetrician and explain to him why you need to do certain things like taking pregnancy supplements, or why you are getting more back aches and might not be able to carry him as much.
It is important to reinforce that you love him as much as before and encourage him when he shows affection towards the baby in your belly.
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The whole idea is to make him feel involved in the process of pregnancy and build a sense of responsibility and care towards the new baby so that when his younger sibling finally arrives, there's greater excitement than rejection towards the little one. (Read: Giving Them Space)
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