It seems rather typical of Asian families to be more subdued in outwardly expressing love for each other. I grew up knowing with certainty that my parents love me and care for me deeply even if they don't seem to have the words "I love you" hanging by their mouths all the time or shower me with hugs and kisses. Perhaps once upon a time they did. Then as I grew older, the outward expression of love reduced over time.
My children receive a lot of hugs and kisses from my husband and me, and all the gramps. It's hard to resist these adorable little ones. Sometimes you just want to squeeze them ever so tightly in your arms, plant kisses all over them, and listen to them giggle. My heart melts when my toddler walks towards me excitedly and lands in my arms for a hug. It warms my heart when I see her doing the same to my parents and enjoying their warm embrace as well.
If you had ever thought that hugging the baby or carrying the baby too much would ‘spoil’ them, I sincerely urge you to reconsider. Your baby might become really ‘sticky’ to you because of the closeness and security that they feel towards you. Or they enjoy you rocking them so much that they take an incredibly long time to fall asleep and wake the moment you put them in their crib. These instances might bring some frustration and fatigue to you, but it also means that your baby absolutely adores you and yearns for your company and physical touch! But it is only a matter of time before the child will outgrow all these.
There will come a time when your child becomes too heavy to be rocked in your arms.
There will come a time when your child can fall asleep on their own.
There may come a time when your child finds it embarrassing or uncool to be hugged and kissed by you in front of their friends.
I have been ‘spoiling’ my kids since day one. I rocked my first son to sleep every night and it typically took 20 minutes of backbreaking effort to put him to sleep. All three kids shared my bed after they grew out of their cot. All my children love coming to me for hugs and kisses multiple times throughout the day. I'm sure your children enjoy your embrace and display of affection just as much. Don't worry about giving your child too many hugs and kisses and spoiling them with that. Just as you would always enjoy hugs and kisses from your husband, so do your children enjoy yours, simply because they love you too.
Hug and kiss your children as much as you can. Because there will come a time when you are going to miss all these. @mumpreneur264
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. – 1 John 4:18
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